Being a Sexual Role Model – Palm Springs Style!

I’ve heard it said a lot, “I’m no role model.” Yet, I learned a long time ago that we really don’t get to choose that for ourselves. People are watching and learning from us whether we are aware of it or not – whether we like it or not. We do, however, have a choice…

Love “a Gay” and Love Yourself!

LGBTQ people have contributed many wonderful things to the course of humanity. Whether incredible art, or scientific advances, or political and civil rights movements, profound spiritual and philosophical insights, or just a fabulous fashion sense – every aspect of humanity has the presence of LGBT folk, whether the world admits it or not. There is…

3 Tips to make your Valentine’s Great! (This year, let that “special someone” be you!)

This year, let that “special someone” be you!

Common Features of Religious Abuse (and the Ex-Gay Movement)

The most important discovery I made in my research* and understanding of my recovery process from my ex-gay experience had to do with the way “ministries” like this function. Briefly put, it is nothing new. In fact, the movement is a microcosm of a larger, more rampant problem today — religious abuse. I had a suspicion that the…

When You Are Enough – Burning Man Style!

(originally published in Pulp Magazine 9/29/11) I have just returned from Burning Man — the huge arts festival in the Nevada desert that is part rave, part experimental community, and part Mad Max Movie,. This was my fourteenth time attending. But a friend of mine, whom I’ll call Sean, went for his first time, and…

Does the Media unknowingly “Enable” The Ex-Gay Movement?

Click here for Part 2… As a queer activist, and an ex-gay survivor, I have gotten pretty frustrated with how the media tends to handle the ex-gay topic. What amazes me is that most of them seem to do the same old thing over and over. Mind you, every person I have worked with in…

Eau de Authentic

Recently at the gym, fresh out of the locker room shower came a gentleman who might be described as a man from the old country – and I mean no disrespect by this. He grumbled a heavy accent. When he groomed himself before the mirror, he hefted a large glass flask out of his bag.…

Straight Supremacy? We will not be assimilated.

Text Version: Hi. I’m Dr. Jallen Rix and this is my first video blog. “You will be assimilated. Resistance is futile!” Those words I was just playing with are from probably one of the most memorable Star Trek Villains, “The Borg.” And they’re a perfect villain of American culture because we seemingly pride ourselves on…